Rachel Hollis and Hard Work

Any other Rachel Hollis fans out there?

Last May I signed up for a business weekend called RISE Business Event with Rachel Hollis all the way  in South Carolina (remember I’m from Vancouver Canada).  November rolled around and so did the conference, and I was resisting going. Off I went on a 13 hour flight (I could have gotten to Europe) but I plunked down in North Charleston.

The great thing was it was warm.  I entered the arena the next day with about 6,000 other entrepreneurs and what a rush it was.  Now, I never really followed Rachel Hollis but the speaker line up was undeniably amazing.  Then this amazing force of creative entrepreneurial  nature hit the stage and I was a hard core fan girl.

A few things hit me hard over the next 3 days.  Rachel Hollis kept pounding into us how amazing  being an entrepreneur is but also it’s HARD WORK and consistency pays off.  You can’t wish for it, or scroll for it, or hope it happens, you have to work for it.

This kept throwing me back to thinking about my sobriety, it’s HARD WORK.  I failed a ton, but I kept going, I got back at it.  Even on days when I thought it didn’t matter to anyone.  I created new ways to have fun in my life even when I still thought fun was drinking.  I stopped wishing for it and started showing up in my new life.  I stopped scrolling for it, I started doing it.

Rachel’s Husband Dave ( who was the host) announced he had stopped drinking and was 8 months sober, now that took the courage of a lifetime, to me my utmost respect went out to him to announce he had stopped drinking to a room full of 6,0000 strangers.  I think I fell a little in love with him.  Both of them also addressed and asked the audience if anyone had coped in unhealthy ways with alcohol or drugs.  So many people raised their hands, it reinforced to me once again we are not alone.

Rachel addressed how when you make healthy changes to your life or changes in general and that not everyone is going to understand or for that matter even support it, but honestly it’s no ones business.  And once again that hit home, I’ve encountered this not only when I decided to get healthy, but when I quit drinking and also being an entrepreneur.

I also started talking to people randomly (this was a networking event) I truly believe like minded people find each other and I found so many others who had stopped drinking or didn’t drink.  The networking event got a lot easier when I opened up and allowed myself to be vulnerable and let others in.

The Rise Business Event was educational & inspiring, as an entrepreneur but what I really took home were two things:

  1. We are not alone, no matter what we are struggling with.
  2. Hard Work, not hoping for something is the key.   In this day and age too many hoping/thinking/dreaming/wishing instead of going after how we want our lives to look like, without making the changes, and putting in the effort DAILY = CONSISTENCY.

 

If you are an entrepreneur I highly suggest attending this event.  Rise Business Event 2020 it will be held in Austin Texas next year, thank goodness.  I will be attending again, not only do I want to see where I have grown in business but as a person.

A huge shout out to Rachel and Dave Hollis for really teaching, showing &  connecting

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xoxo ChristinaIMG_94107eNJuaTwTo2%aqimjhxGVwnJDId8F3Qpux5zy6hjH8Wg

 

 

 

Feeling Stuck

Around the beginning of May, I started feeling off, and I can’t put my finger on the perfect words to describe this period of time. I was definitely feeling depression, but not really, maybe the word more accurately to describe life was stuck.

I actually went off instagram for a bit and stopped posting as I had all of a sudden a disdain for social media, I described it as posting paralysis. I was at loss for words, I stopped blogging, writing my newsletters and took a step back. Then I felt like I had taken 100 steps back.

I gave myself a deadline of June 1st to get back writing and it passed. July 1st is now around the corner. I was going to write and inspirational post & I thought let’s just be real here. Let’s be authentic, let’s be really true. I felt off.

I continued my running journey, I’ll write more about that later. I wasn’t drinking, but my creativity was so low at one point I actually had a thought of “Fuck, why did I tell my story about becoming sober and why did I transition from fitness coaching to sober coaching”. That’s when I knew I needed to watch my step and my own sobriety could be in jeopardy. I knew it was time to be ok with being stuck. Let the feelings be what they were, stay true to myself.

The last few weeks, I all of a sudden felt great but then how do I go back to my blog, and I thought be honest, be real be true. I felt stuck, felt off, felt no creativity and now I feel better and I didn’t drink, smoke or do anything destructive to blow up my life.

I love you and am always listening

xoxox Christina

Reality of Sober Long Weekends

Reality of Sober Long Weekends

May Long weekend, the unofficial kick off to summer. Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat are showing us all how amazing life everyones life is. But you are watching all of this and your weekend doesn’t look like these epic events that are taking place.

Sober Long Weekends

My very first sober long weekend was 2 years ago and it was hell. In fact I didn’t I didn’t make it through sober, I said fuck it. Worst mistake ever, because guess what drinking didn’t make it epic.

Fast forward to when I finally got a month of not drinking and the next sober long weekend rolled around and all I felt like was an outsider. It was the end of summer not the beginning, everyone was travelling or camping or throwing bbq’s and I was crying in bed, binging netflix and feeling like a loser.

Go forward in the journey a bit more to this past weekend. I was watching everyones stories on social media & that old feeling popped up. Everyone was away, everyone was drinking, bbqing, having the time of their lives. Except me. Well that’s what it seemed like on social media.

So I started thinking about my weekend, I did a lot of work, hung out with my husband, ran, went to a fantastic sushi place for dinner, and really just rested, isn’t that what long weekends are for?

Reality vs Social Media

My girlfriend came back from camping and I spoke to her, she was exhausted, hungover and already dreading Tuesday. Her family trip was so amazing and fun on instagram, but what she spoke of was about was the chaos. The drunkeness, the expense, the exhaustion, who didn’t get along with who. It was exhausting to listen to.

My son, who’s weekend was all over social media, came home hungover, grumpy and battled traffic for 4 hours what should have been a 1.5- 2 hour drive home.

I on the other hand though my weekend may not have been “instagram worthy”, but it was hangover free, so when you look at the highlight reel remember a sober long weekend is really a great long weekend. If you are bored and remember boredom is a trigger download the Ultimate Guide What to do Instead of Drinking Here

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xoxox Christina