- “I drink my wine so fast I get smashed before dinner” time to switch to coolers”
- “I’m going to switch from coolers back to wine all that carbonation is making me bloated and I can drink a lot of coolers”
- “We can’t drink during the week anymore week anymore, I feel like hell
- I’ll only drink on Friday and Saturday. Oh ok Sunday brunch too.
- “I’ll only do one Wine Wednesday a month
- “I’ll only have a glass of wine with dinner”
- ” I’m going to switch to vodka and soda even though I don’t really like the taste of it, but I’m packing on the pounds from all the coolers”
- “We need to drink right after work, not later’
- “We need to start drinking during the day so we can go to bed early and don’t have a have a hangover tomorrow.”
The above were all things I said aloud or in my head, I’m sure there were a hundred more, what I didn’t know at the time was I was trying to moderate. I’d never heard that term before I started digging into my Recovery. To my way of thinking I was just trying to have less of a hangover on work days and less of a shit show and of course more control.
This conversation has come up lately in a few of my sober groups and with friends. We have talked about trying to control our drinking with switching out, switching up, and doing things differently. The overwhelming thing was every one I have talked with has done the control thing in one form or another, Each and Every One, that’s a 100% statistic.
The other statistic that came out was every single person has googled something about controlling drinking, or if they were an alcoholic, or about alcohol problems.
Deep down, in your gut/intuition if you are trying to control an issue, you know it’s a problem whether it’s a phase in your life or an actual problem is something that only time tells.
I have gone through stages in my life where my drinking was more then less, but when I started trying to have to control it, because my mental health, my overall well being and the gong show of evenings were becoming more regular than not and I couldn’t get it under control, (ie everything you just read up top wasn’t working) that’s when I knew it was time to look at stopping (but that’s another blog post)
Can you identify with any of the above moderations? I’d love to hear about it.