- “I drink my wine so fast I get smashed before dinner” time to switch to coolers”
- “I’m going to switch from coolers back to wine all that carbonation is making me bloated and I can drink a lot of coolers”
- “We can’t drink during the week anymore week anymore, I feel like hell
- I’ll only drink on Friday and Saturday. Oh ok Sunday brunch too.
- “I’ll only do one Wine Wednesday a month
- “I’ll only have a glass of wine with dinner”
- ” I’m going to switch to vodka and soda even though I don’t really like the taste of it, but I’m packing on the pounds from all the coolers”
- “We need to drink right after work, not later’
- “We need to start drinking during the day so we can go to bed early and don’t have a have a hangover tomorrow.”
The above were all things I said aloud or in my head, I’m sure there were a hundred more, what I didn’t know at the time was I was trying to moderate. I’d never heard that term before I started digging into my Recovery. To my way of thinking I was just trying to have less of a hangover on work days and less of a shit show and of course more control.
This conversation has come up lately in a few of my sober groups and with friends. We have talked about trying to control our drinking with switching out, switching up, and doing things differently. The overwhelming thing was every one I have talked with has done the control thing in one form or another, Each and Every One, that’s a 100% statistic.
The other statistic that came out was every single person has googled something about controlling drinking, or if they were an alcoholic, or about alcohol problems.
Deep down, in your gut/intuition if you are trying to control an issue, you know it’s a problem whether it’s a phase in your life or an actual problem is something that only time tells.
I have gone through stages in my life where my drinking was more then less, but when I started trying to have to control it, because my mental health, my overall well being and the gong show of evenings were becoming more regular than not and I couldn’t get it under control, (ie everything you just read up top wasn’t working) that’s when I knew it was time to look at stopping (but that’s another blog post)
Can you identify with any of the above moderations? I’d love to hear about it.
Age isn’t making your boobs bigger girl, you have booze boobs, I was devastated to find this out. I had always been slender then I found alcohol. Something from my drinking days was weight gain, in fact through my life you can see in pics, you can tell during heavy drinking days by my weight. I had periods in my life where where you can tell by pics drinking wasn’t prevalent (pregnancy, post pregnancy, I was a single mom/ going to school/ working) funny when I was busy, felt like I had a purpose and passion I wasn’t drinking. I also had small boobs.
I could start to tell when I was drinking heavily and regularly I would gain weight because my bras wouldn’t fit and would become tight (especially when you are trying to stuff a C cup into an A cup) I had even started googling “do your boobs get bigger as you get older” trying to blame aging at the ripe old age of 38 years old on my boobs.
I remember in my late 30’s after I’d met my now husband one day he looked over and said “holy crap those got huge” (he’s not a boob guy) and a gf noticed she’d said to me one day don’t take this the wrong way “but your boobs look great” and I looked down and I had boobs, not just any old boobs, large boobs, I had gained just under 40lbs in under a year. None of my bras fit anymore. Let’s be honest nothing fit anymore, my underwear was digging in, my dress slacks & suits for work had succumbed to leggings with boots and blazers
Alcohol is metabolized through your liver, at a certain point it can’t metabolize anymore and your calories are stored as fat. Now add in the calories from drunk food and boom you have a perfect storm for weight gain. Pretty simple actually. Guess what boobs are made out of Fat. It’s also why you hear the term beer belly (in both men and women)
When I got sober I started listening to a podcast, it’s no longer on the air, but her intro talked about booze boobs. I’m like omg that’s me, I have booze boobs. I didn’t know this was a real thing. It is, and trust me girl if you think it’s age and you drink a bottle of wine a couple of nights a week or more trust me it’s not age, it’s booze boobs. Happy to say as I decided to pull off the 3000 extra calories a week from wine and drunk food (guess what no more booze boobs)
We are Just finishing up a Dry January Challenge and some of the women are expressing they are EXHAUSTED and not feeling great, I had to think back and yes I remember this feeling, but the point is I had to think back.
Early Sobriety is tiring, not only are you trying to avoid drinking, manage emotions, but also thinking what in the hell why am I not feeling better, I’ve stopped drinking. I should feel like a million dollars, and honestly that can stem some panic, the thoughts of why should I bother if I feel like hell and am exhausted at least when I was drinking I had energy (ummm not really remember that brain is tricky, remember those debilitating hangovers)
Tired in Early Sobriety Tips
- Energy levels in humans ebb and flow in everyone. So remember this if you are feeling exhausted. It’s normal.
- Your body is healing, we didn’t create a drinking habit in one day, years of abuse is not going to get healed in one day.
- Sleep, yes sleep stop fighting it
- I know we feel like we should be doing something, give yourself a pat on the back for doing sobriety, you are doing something you are changing a massive habit.
- Cry if you need to, Crying is a release
- Nutrition is super important, protein, complex carbs and fats are going to be key ensure you are having a mid afternoon healthy snack (fruit apple with peanut butter is my go to) for energy levels and moods
- If you are falling asleep at work get up and stretch, we really aren’t made to sit for 8 hours a day.
- Put a cool compress on your head or wash your face in cool water.
- Get some fresh air, go for a walk, jog, bike ride just get outside even if you don’t want to, go around the block.
- Minimize sugar, to avoid the blood sugar highs and lows.
- Watch your coffee/ tea intake
- Know that this will pass I promise, remember I said I had to think back, don’t give up because you are tired.
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