Juggling sobriety, family, career and household can be overwhelming, at times. Therefore when this happens we can start feeling very depleted, frayed at the edges. Dare I say, run ragged even.
Your mental health is one of the most important parts of your sobriety. Here are 5 Tips I have used when feeling stressed and plain old run down.
5 TIPS WHEN LIFE GETS YOU DOWN:
Eat, many including myself under stress don’t eat enough, skip meals completely. Which in turn can lead to more stress on our bodies and mind, or reach for sugary snacks, instead of a healthy meal. Eat something healthy and regularly.
Next main priority is not numbing out with alcohol, set your intention, no matter how stressed you are it won’t help. My mantra is: life may be hard right now, but wine will make it harder.
Cry, yes release those pent-up emotions, crying does help. Not a cryer, cut up an onion, or watch a sad movie.
Stop with all the self help & personal development. No, not for good but give yourself a break for a day or two. I truly believe we can overload on thinking we are broken. Read a book for enjoyment, watch a fun movie, hang out with friends or family, take a social media break.
Do ONE task you’ve been putting off, this will give you a sense of accomplishment. Mow the lawn, take stuff to Goodwill, call your mom or that friend back.
Take good care of yourself for a few days, allow your feelings to be present, and know that life can be hard, but this too shall pass.
Last week I overdid my exercise. Early Monday morning I went to spin, it was a beautiful day so I went for a 5km run. This past year I have been on a mission to building & strengthening my core through exercise.
As soon as I was home my lower back was aching, by the next morning I was very stiff. Having trouble walking and moving the wrong way, would take my breath away. I knew I was not going to be exercising.
Hit up my chiropractor and he squeezed me in, and told me to take the rest of the week off. I freaked I’m training for a half marathon (and I’m 47) and not the best at running long distances. He said well it’s either that or your back is going to go out and you will be on the floor, at the moment you have a spasm, and a choice. I coach fitness clients, I exercise daily what in the hell was I going to do.
5 Things that happened, taking a week off exercise.
First off I got caught up work. I did things that I’ve been putting off like updating websites, blogging, filing, organized my office.
As a result of being more organized, I was able to work on my self care. Stretching was my number one priority this week and I admit I need to do more of it.
I went for walks with my husband and spent some quality time together. I am use to doing things at a fairly high pace and walking is not usually one of them it has been so nice.
Decided to try out a few new healthy recipes, but I also found I ate more junk food, usually I keep my healthy eating at 90% with 10% junk food and this past week I have found it has been more at 75% and 25% junk food. Food and exercise have a high correlation.
All in all my back is feeling better, and I am excited to get back to running, lifting and spinning. To get back into routine, as I think that has been the hardest part for me being so completely out of routine. I will be easing into the my workouts!
A Sober book club came about because in early sobriety I was looking for things to do so I found a local book club and it became very apparent the women weren’t here to discuss books, but gossip, discuss their marital woes, or dating stories and DRINK. Oh the wine was flowing like I may as well have stepped into a wine bar. So I talked to a few friends and they all said yes that was how their book clubs were so much drunk fun (insert eyeball here) . One lady said that she warns her colleagues at work when book club night is in order for them to be prepared for her hangover the next day… UGH, it was disheartening, and of course I never went back & have continued to read alone on my own.
A few weeks ago, I started A Teetotalers Online Book Club I thought it might be kind of hokey, an online book club meetings are by zoom, but I like connecting with sober women, and I love to read. Then as the first meeting got closer I got nervous what if no one shows up? I already had a dialogue in my head going on, I was going to shut this meeting down if people weren’t showing up, and all the other negative self talk one can get into when you launch something and then second guess yourself.
Guess what they did show up to the Zoom Call. Guess what it was FUN, and guess what we were from ALL OVER THE WORLD AND we were connecting over sobriety, our life, and BOOKS. And we are all looking forward to next months meeting.
The book chosen to read this month is The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober, and if you would like to join us for fun in sobriety, you are more than welcome to this is just the start of something beautiful. A TEETOTALERS BOOK CLUB join here to connect with other amazing sober sisters.