How to know if you have a drinking problem. This subject came up the other day, in our book club, we all said that we had gone online and taken a test or googled the symptoms, everyone of us had done this, to see if we had a drinking problem. Some of the women identify as an alcoholic, some like myself identify with alcohol abuse disorder, each and everyone of us identify that alcohol intrerefered with our lives
One woman even said she lied on the test, so it came out NO. I justified on the test (it asked if you drank alone) I was a single mom, who did you want me to drink with my 5 year old? So how do you know?
You are googling it, is one of the first clues, though it might be years before that clue comes to light
My other clue & everyone else agreed it was the hangovers/wasted days of being incapacitated after.
The whole in my life
The anxiety from drinking
The guilt from drinking
The feeling in the morning of wishing I hadn’t drank the day before
And the fact it interfered with our jobs (missed days or just not being present) and or parenting (short tempered, missing parenting meetings, or not attending events).
Interesting fact was none of us said it was because we drank alone or because someone was concerned, or if it had negatively affected friendships or if we embarrassed ourselves ever or the fact that we had spent too much money drinking as we could rationalize these things. Or some of the questions didn’t even apply like do you get the shakes if you don’t drink, or do you crave alcohol daily (nope) it went deeper than just the surface questions.
You see having a drinking problem doesn’t look the same for everyone. You might see a person rummaging through a garbage can swigging booze out of a bottle (think Frank from Shameless) and think yeah he has a problem, but when you look at that well dressed woman with her son, who’s a single mom in her 30’s, goes out on weekends, rides her bike, is at the soccer field every saturday morning, has a nanny part time, has a corporate job, lives by the beach you may not look and guess she has a problem. There are so many definitions of does someone have a problem with alcohol and not one is right or wrong if they have a problem. Its if you are happy with our life.
Really only you can decide when you have had enough, that point has been made over and over by court ordered rehabs, detoxes, psychiatry holds, or when that mom cries on her couch every Sunday wishing she’d never drank again this weekend.
There is no defining point it’s just you and your life. The great thing is you can always try out not drinking and go back to it if it’s not for you or you can decide like I did that life is so much easier without alcohol/ hangovers you may never go back.
Many who stop drinking find themselves turning to sugar a transfer of addiction. I have found people have actually been told to eat sugar because sugar will quell the alcohol cravings.
Which is true, to a degree, but telling an addict to transfer one addiction to another substance is a tough one for me to swallow, it’s transference. Like hey quit drinking but start a shopping addiction. So here’s some keys to avoiding transferring alcohol to eating all the candy.
Here are some tips to help avoiding transferring alcohol to a sugar addiction.
Eat Berries & Fruits (snack type food keeps your hands busy) that’s healthy and contains sugar but also nutrients. An apple with peanut butter is my favorite snack
Smoothies are a great way to feel full and satisfy a sweet tooth with a health benefit (make them at home in the blender – store bought are full of added sugars)
Keep a plate of veggies (already chopped) in the fridge & dip) ready for snacking
Sweet potatoes are a complex carb that when you bake they candy, add cinnamon and they are a healthy treat.
Chocolate Protein powder is my favorite I add it to my oatmeal, my plain yogurt or as my post workout shake with berries. It helps me get my extra protein in and satisfys a sweet tooth.
Keep your hands busy
Do not buy what you cannot eat in moderation in your house. If you want something you actually have to leave and go get a treat (you’ll see me on instagram going and getting a blizzard every once in a while, because I do not keep ice-cream in my house)
Don’t buy treats at Costco ( enough said LOL)
Exercise yes go for a walk, take up tennis, go swimming, and do it on a regular schedule not just once in a while.
Many people struggle with this, you are not alone, but know that it does not have to continue or even start. You can eat healthy, be healthy and get sober or be sober without transferring your addiction.
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As always I hope these tips helped and reach out anytime xoxoxox Christina
Stop saying No. Ok not to drugs or alcohol or anything harmful to the environment, but do you say no before you even try something new?
There is a lot online about stopping say yes because you are overcommitted but I am finding there is a lot of people that are saying no and are close minded.
I have been criticized by my own family when I started eating healthy and cleaning up my diet. — Years later almost all of them have adapted to my lifestyle
I have been laughed at by friends for choosing to not go out and go to the gym in the morning. – Seriously yes seriously
I have been judged by other women for lifting weights, telling me I’ll end up looking like a man. – Actually lifting weights increases your bone density, helps prevent osteoporosis, fights weight gain, increases metabolism and it’s really tough to add muscle.
I’ve had my parents curl their nose at me when I told them I was going to baby goat yoga- so much fine I highly recommend it! More laughter and cuteness than yoga
I’ve had people tell me not to waste my time going to see Tony Robbins & Jen Sincero (author of You Are A Bad Ass) speak last summer – Loved them both so much energy.
I’ve been told chiropractic and acupuncture are dangerous and I shouldn’t go – I literally wouldn’t be running a 1/2 marathon at the age of 47 if I didn’t see these two.
Yesterday when I told my husband I was going to try cryotherapy as I have a nagging pain in my left leg, once again I was met with no, don’t waste your money, as he puts his hands on his knees and can barely straighten up after a long day of work. – my bitchy side came out after his comment, and I’ll let you know how cryotherapy goes next week.
Honestly, I used to poo-poo new things too, but after years of working on self development, getting rid of judgement and having to train my brain in learning to be open and try new things, it has opened a world of doors to me with living healthy, taking care of my body and has been instrumental in getting sober and staying sober .
To be open, and teachable is one of the most powerful transformations I have made next to living sober, I will try anything that betters me and make a decision after I have tried it not once but 2 or 3 times.
Stay open my friends even if your family/friends/coworkers/strangers on the internet aren’t. My one piece of advice if you know they are NO people don’t say anything, just do it, take action and then talk about the event/food/course.