It’s so incredible, when you meet a friend that you connect with. Not just on a sober level, but an actual friend. I met this woman on a chat group called Hello Sunday Morning (it was an Australian sober group). This group unfortunately is shut down, but my profile and name at the time suggested I lived in Vancouver and she messaged me. We met for coffee and found out we have many of the same interests. Including spin. We don’t live too far from each other, and we hit it off.
Going on 9 months later we meet regularly at spin and for dinners. Tonight’s dinner was at a beach side restaurant, she arrived ahead of me. Now walking into a beachside restaurant on a Friday night to meet a girlfriend in the past would have meant a bottle of wine at the table. She had a mocktail in hand.
It really is refreshing and the fact we ate early ( I am no longer a late night dinner person) and our bill was so reasonable. We eat at fashionable places and neither of us is waking up regretting our actions, our credit card bills or what we ate. We are present for each other, have some great laughs and catch up. Say goodnight and head out. Both leaving feeling far better off starting a sober weekend.
Above all I’m just super grateful for this journey. Sticking with it, making that friend that has a mocktail in hand.
Juggling sobriety, family, career and household can be overwhelming, at times. Therefore when this happens we can start feeling very depleted, frayed at the edges. Dare I say, run ragged even.
Your mental health is one of the most important parts of your sobriety. Here are 5 Tips I have used when feeling stressed and plain old run down.
5 TIPS WHEN LIFE GETS YOU DOWN:
Eat, many including myself under stress don’t eat enough, skip meals completely. Which in turn can lead to more stress on our bodies and mind, or reach for sugary snacks, instead of a healthy meal. Eat something healthy and regularly.
Next main priority is not numbing out with alcohol, set your intention, no matter how stressed you are it won’t help. My mantra is: life may be hard right now, but wine will make it harder.
Cry, yes release those pent-up emotions, crying does help. Not a cryer, cut up an onion, or watch a sad movie.
Stop with all the self help & personal development. No, not for good but give yourself a break for a day or two. I truly believe we can overload on thinking we are broken. Read a book for enjoyment, watch a fun movie, hang out with friends or family, take a social media break.
Do ONE task you’ve been putting off, this will give you a sense of accomplishment. Mow the lawn, take stuff to Goodwill, call your mom or that friend back.
Take good care of yourself for a few days, allow your feelings to be present, and know that life can be hard, but this too shall pass.
Last week I overdid my exercise. Early Monday morning I went to spin, it was a beautiful day so I went for a 5km run. This past year I have been on a mission to building & strengthening my core through exercise.
As soon as I was home my lower back was aching, by the next morning I was very stiff. Having trouble walking and moving the wrong way, would take my breath away. I knew I was not going to be exercising.
Hit up my chiropractor and he squeezed me in, and told me to take the rest of the week off. I freaked I’m training for a half marathon (and I’m 47) and not the best at running long distances. He said well it’s either that or your back is going to go out and you will be on the floor, at the moment you have a spasm, and a choice. I coach fitness clients, I exercise daily what in the hell was I going to do.
5 Things that happened, taking a week off exercise.
First off I got caught up work. I did things that I’ve been putting off like updating websites, blogging, filing, organized my office.
As a result of being more organized, I was able to work on my self care. Stretching was my number one priority this week and I admit I need to do more of it.
I went for walks with my husband and spent some quality time together. I am use to doing things at a fairly high pace and walking is not usually one of them it has been so nice.
Decided to try out a few new healthy recipes, but I also found I ate more junk food, usually I keep my healthy eating at 90% with 10% junk food and this past week I have found it has been more at 75% and 25% junk food. Food and exercise have a high correlation.
All in all my back is feeling better, and I am excited to get back to running, lifting and spinning. To get back into routine, as I think that has been the hardest part for me being so completely out of routine. I will be easing into the my workouts!